It is my opinion that social media has put us each in our own personal fishbowl. We are exposed to extreme measures of scrutiny and judgment. It becomes a hamster wheel of needing validation but instead of getting validation, we barnacle onto anything we perceive as negative. The negative puts pressure on the small inherent cracks in our psyche. As a result, we begin to care too much about what other people think. We worry and obsess.
We worry more than we’ve ever worried in the history of the human race and it infiltrates all aspects of our thoughts. In the unfortunate case where negative comments are intended to hurt or harm, it can chip away at our souls.
Mean comments suck but they don’t need to sting.
Once you understand the connection that your thoughts create/trigger your feelings, you immediately recognize thoughts that are harmful, allow them to pass. You learn to just wait for the next better thought and get into the wonderful space of creative flow. You will find that the impact of the negative will be less and less and less. It goes from a gut punch to a slap to a pinch to a ‘hm? I think that was that supposed to hurt?’.
Today, I say to myself “wow I don’t like the way that made me feel” or “hmm, that’s unusual.” I don’t even go into self-evaluation. I just let the thought pass and look for the next better thought. I try to do something that will push my mind into the creative flow. If there is a real problem that is causing anxiety, I use the creative flow to come up with 50 or 100 solutions.
It’s shocking how it seems you should be getting control of your mind or your thoughts to fix the problem but it’s the opposite, it’s about letting go. Know that you have 60,000+ thoughts a day and you’ve trained your mind to be on heightened alert for those that harm. Observe the feeling, let the bad ones pass, and let the thoughts flow by without grabbing onto any.